Are You the Kind of Man She’ll Take Home to Mother?

Are You the Kind of Man She’ll Take Home to Mother?

You may be a nice guy, but are you the type she’ll take home to meet dear old mom and dad? If you want to know for sure that you are, check out the list we’ve put together of requirements for being a good candidate for meeting the parents:

• Do you have a job? Right up front, let’s just be clear that you don’t have to be a doctor, attorney or hold a PhD in order to impress the family. If you’re a delivery driver for the local appliance store, that’s fine. The question is - are you gainfully employed, and if not, do you have a good reason (college student, just laid off – searching for work, or other good reason)? No matter what you do for a living, do you treat your job with respect and do it to the best of your ability? This is what’s going to matter most.
   
• How do you handle responsibilities? This could be anything from your job to finances to your verbal commitment to help with the community spring clean up. Do you follow through and take pride in being responsible?
• How do you treat your friends and family? The way you treat and talk about your own friends and family will be an indicator to her about how you will treat her family.
• Are you financially secure? This isn’t so much about how much you have, but what you do with what you have. If you’re new on a job and your income is small, are you still making it work for you and looking to your future? Or do you spend it before it’s earned and continue racking up debt she might have to help pay off if the two of you stay together forever?
• How do you act around kids? This is going to make a difference - especially if she loves kids and her family is full of them. If you like kids, that’s great. If you don’t, you need to find a girl who doesn’t either. And if you’ve never been around children and just don’t get them, make an effort to spend some time with them so that you know where you’re at.
• Are you clean, neat and good smelling? Sounds silly, right? But do you want a girlfriend who’s dirty, sloppy and stinky? Didn’t think so. Doesn’t matter what your style is, it’s not going to work if you smell or look like you just slept in an alley.
• How’s your housekeeping? Bachelor pads strewn with beer cans and old pizza boxes aren’t a turn on, and unless she’s a complete slob, she’s not going to like that at all. Your place doesn’t have to be perfect, but you should keep things picked up, and wipe down the kitchen and bathroom often (women hate a disgusting bathroom).
• Do you know how to act? Can you hold your own when out in public, meeting new people, having a conversation with someone (her parents)? It’s good to know how to be polite, yet relaxed, and with practice anyone can do this. It’s also good to know the art of conversation. One of the cornerstones is to remember to ask others about themselves and stop talking about yourself and don’t be a wallflower because some people will see this as suspicious.

If you’ve been dating for awhile, she’s going to start considering whether you’re really worthy of her and possibly becoming a part of her family, even in a casual way. All of the above listed qualifications will go into her decision about whether or not to take you home to meet mom and dad. If you fail to meet any of the qualifications, see what you can do to remedy your shortcomings.